Gay sex advice

Am I having enough sex? Should I be having more? Or less? Should I be promiscuous while I’m young? Should I be having more adventurous sex? All these questions constantly go round and round in my head.

Gay sex is a minefield and for most of us, one we’ve had to navigate ourselves pretty much blind. Gay sex education is almost non-existent in school (at least when I was growing up), you can’t really turn to your parents for their perspectives and without gay siblings, role models or friends, there’s very few places one can turn to for advice.

For this reason most of what I personally learnt about sex was through porn and through trial and error.

I also wonder if the emphasis that the gay community places on sex is one of the reasons that so many guys (myself included) find it hard to make meaningful connections. There are definitely gay men out there who have a healthy relationship with sex but for the rest of, there’s confusion and disconnection and a little bit of anxiety.

Watch this video of me talking about gay sex and my experience and let me know how you feel about this sticky topic.

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One thought on “Gay sex advice

  1. Nick says:

    Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video, talk it out and post it. I had the same experience in my 20s when an older gay coroner told me the same thing – sleep with as many people as you can before it’s too late! It’s something I’ve also been thinking a lot about recently since I’m turning 35 this year and have been in a monogamous relationship for almost 10 years! I find myself constantly thinking about the future of my relationship, if I’ve missed out or will miss out on better sex if we don’t redefine our relationship. But when I was single, I felt empty after hookups and am just not wired for NSA fun. My wheels have been turning looking back and thinking ahead. Good to know I am not alone thinking through all of this. Complex topic indeed.

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